Ordinary Days

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This video was made by a mother. Naturally, it presents a mother’s perspective. The things a mother would do for her child, the manner in which a mother experiences her child. This experience is unique to every mother. All mothers, including me, know that.

This doesn’t, however, mean that the video is only for mothers or women. I know men who experience their children as vividly and deeply as a mother would. Just as I know of many mothers whose child experience is casual and unremarkable… a chore… a duty to be gone through.

This video isn’t for parents to whom the experience of parenthood will never contain the word gift. They are in fact, relieved that they are now free and their job is done- never mind how the child turned out.

This video is for those parents who cherish- and have cherished- their child. It is for those who have made mistakes in parenting because they didn’t know better or because they had no idea of alternatives. Despite that, they did their best and nurtured their child to the best of their ability simply because their child is the most precious gift they have.

I wish I had seen this video before my first child was born. I may have done things differently. I would certainly have paid a lot more attention to the moments which were very precious- and I didn’t know it then. There would have been a lot more deliberation in my parenting than there was. I would have been a lot less afraid and a lot more demonstrative.

If you are a new parent, or a fairly new parent, I envy you. I know there will be days when the sleep- deprived nights and the 24×7 demands of your child will irk you. You will feel guilty then, but you must not. No parent has ever said that their journey was all roses the entire while. They may say it twenty years removed from the oh God has she woken up again! time but when caught in the thick of it, they certainly do not. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

It is perfectly fine to be irked at such moments. The rest of the time, remember what it feels like. This time will be over too soon and then you’ll only have a bunch of memories to bury your face into and inhale deeply. When that time comes, I pray that you will relive the unique fragrance of your child.

How else does one  add depth to one’s ordinary days?

13 thoughts on “Ordinary Days

  1. Rachna

    Thank you for sharing the video, Dagny. It had me in tears. Her two sons felt like I am watching my two boys. And though they are younger, I can quite envisage similar stuff unfolding for me when they grow up. Thank you for the reminder that we often forget to treasure what is here and now and the gift of an ordinary day. Also it reiterates the importance of gratitude.

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    1. Dagny Post author

      I’m glad you liked it Rachna. So many acts of grace… if only we’d keep our hearts open. 🙂

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  2. nishi01

    Had seen this video before. and cried copious tears. But your accompanying writing, is what makes it even more special. Thanks to Achyut dutt, who shared this, got to read. warm wishes. keep penning.

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    1. Dagny Post author

      Thank you. Achyut has this very endearing trait of bringing people together. Glad to connect with you. 😀

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  3. bdh63

    This was deeply lovely, now as the older of my two boys moved into tween years and is on a short slide to adolescence. I already see him pulling away, and being baffled by the urge. Coming back to me in a rush, and then pulling away again. Each day is precious, a treasure, a miracle. I feel immeasurably lucky. Thanks for reminding me, and giving me a forum to express it. What a big heart you have.

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    1. Dagny Post author

      Coming back to me in a rush, and then pulling away again.— what a powerful description Brenda. That’s exactly how it is. You’ve articulated it so well.

      Bless you. 🙂

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        1. Dagny Post author

          A very wise friend had once said, “Every stage of life has its own beauty. How you looked at 20 is very different from how you will look at 40. But 40 has its own beauty… it has the grace that the vigor of 20 never had.” And I have realized the truth of her words. 😀

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          1. bdh63

            Good points. Now that pre-adolescent glaze in my son’s eyes and his bedhead hair standing on end does have a certain charm. 🙂

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